saw someone refer to not knowing how to keep track of your money as "girl math" ......why are we in this weird era of treating women like idiots but repackaging it to sound cute and quirky. We All Need To Stop
saw an interesting video about how this trend might have begun because a lot of younger millennial and gen z people don't feel deserving of calling themselves adults because we don't have the signifiers of adulthood we recognize in previous generations, we don't have kids, we can't own a house, we aren't married, etc. that's why ""adulting"" was used too because for many young people, being an adult is something you must act as, it's an action you must do, and not something that you just are, when you don't feel like you've reached those milestones. "girl____" kind of feels like it started as a coping mechanism to deal with the fact that yes, these people are literally adults, but they don't have the same freedom and agency as previous generations who own houses and land and have stable jobs. those are "women", while young people relate closer to "girl"
but yes I think it was also quickly co-opted by people who didn't get the joke and think it just is an easy way to be misogynistic :/
Anonymous asked:
im gonna keep wearing make up and your bitchy little "im so much better and cooler than other girls" post isnt gonna stop me <3.
tiktaalic answered:
Hi. You’re getting defensive about something you perceive as a personal attack and it’s blinding your critical thinking. If you skim the tags for half a second you’ll see dozens of people talking about how they feel a deep encompassing shame if they go anywhere without wearing makeup. I think it’s bad that people have been conditioned to be embarrassed of their own face. I never got into makeup, but when I was in high school I made the decision to delete Snapchat forever because it got to the point where my stomach would drop every time my face went from Filtered Face to my own face.
It’s good and healthy to develop your self esteem enough to feel comfortable around other people in public without makeup. it takes 2 seconds to look and see that’s clearly not the case for so many people. I have nothing but empathy and respect for the people who are aware they have a problem and are scared of the amounts of work they have to do to get past it.
And Odds are, people who have a healthy relationship with makeup are not people who get so ruffled by a post that states “some people are addicted to makeup” that they send anons calling someone a bitch. I think it’s worth it to consider and sit with why you had such a knee jerk reaction to an innocuous statement. Wish you nothing but the best and a good day to boot.
One of the interchangeable ghouls running in 2024 is talking up his plan to tie voting rights to passing a civics test & it's amazing watching people discuss this in neutral terms
ALTA lot of the response to this is "oh, that's great, next let's restore civics education in schools", but the entire point is that they're not going to improve civics education. The age range gives a hint: this is a ploy to disenfranchise young voters, by, presumably, demanding they pass a test the state won't train them for in order to get rights granted by the states. It's like saying "oh, yes, literacy tests for voting makes sense, it'll really inspire the South to educate black people". It uh. Didn't. And I think many of the people agreeing know that and support it bc it's disenfranchising, but some seem to just agree bc it's "COMMON SENSE" and they're not digging any deeper?
This would be a civics test authored by a far right administration, to be clear. The tests we give immigrants are already propagandistic nonsense, imagine that in the hands of the "slavery taught people valuable skills" crowd
Also, his amendment would allow young people who can't pass the test to vote if they join the military. This is a "service guarantees citizenship" amendment
ALTThis is just literacy tests again!
One thing that gets overlooked in conversations about these kinds of tests is that the government isn't required to design a good test. That might seem like a small thing, but during the days of the literacy test governments would go out of their way to write up ambiguous or deceptively worded questions to drive down the pass rate.
Here's a literacy test that was used in Louisiana in 1964. I want you to seriously try taking this test, and remember that you have to answer every question correctly in 10 minutes to vote.
Number 30 is the most egregious to my mind. Draw five circles that do what with one common inter-locking part? What's an interlocking part anyhow? Some of these have multiple possible answers. Is the answer to number 25 "Paris in the the spring" or "what you read in the triangle below"? Number 9 is a particular bit of fuckery, because the right answer is to draw a single curved line that intersects Z and Y.
The government cheats. The worse part is, you can't bloody well vote them out of office for cheating, because they've already taken away your right to vote.
"Well I'll just wait until I'm 25 and vote them out of office then!" What's keeping these people from increasing that age to 35 or 45, or just getting rid of the age requirement altogether? You can't fucking vote against them raising the age limit, can you?
"Well they can't ban everyone from voting." They don't have to. Here's a fun bit of etymological trivia: the term "grandfather clause" comes from exceptions built into the literacy test system that stated you don't have to take the test if your grandpa could vote. These exceptions were put in place soon after black people were first given the right to vote, so most white people were exempt but most black people had to take the test.
Don't think they'll put in an exception that lets their voters keep voting while preventing you from voting? They're already doing it. The average soldier is more likely to vote conservative than the average person of the same age bracket. That's why soldiers get the exception! No way they'd give the same exception to members of the Peace Corp, despite a Peace Corp member doing a hell of a lot more to fulfill their civic duty than a soldier, because those people are bloody liberals.
A more present day firsthand comparison for people: states banning abortion didn’t lead to those states also providing services to the women they force to give birth. The whole point of those states banning abortion isn’t actually to “protect life,” it’s to ruin the lives of women.
This is the same concept with young voters. If a “civics education” even actually did happen, you can bet it would be full of disinformation that’s supposed to force people to accept Republican bullshit or else not get to vote.
Voter ID is also a modern case of this - they framed it as a way to fight voter fraud, and in a vacuum, it sounds neutral...but that ignores how Republicans simultaneously made it more difficult to get IDs, and that voter fraud as they frame it basically doesn't happen (since, well, their side are the only ones trying to do organized voter fraud)
I can't imagine what a nightmare a civics test written by the far-right would be. Imagine having to answer that Biden stole the election in 2020 or that the Civil War was about "state's rights" to vote
Every fun post on here that encourages people to have hobbies/be creative always gets an avalanche of "Some people are poor Karen" type reactions and respectfully, you're all super annoying. I've never lived above the poverty line and this is a list of hobbies I have that were cheap or entirely free:
And lastly and most importantly: Share! Share your supllies, share your knowledge. Surround yourself with other creative people and before you know it someone will give you a pot of homemade jam and when you want to paint your kabinet someone will have leftover paint in just the right color and you can give them a homemade candle in return and everyone is having fun and building skills and friendships and not a cent is exchanged. We have always lived like this, it's what humans are build to do.
And all of it sure beats sitting behind a computer going "No stranger, I refuse to let myself have a good time."
Anyway I'm logging off bc I'm making some badges for a friend who cooked for me and then I'm going to fix some holes in everyones clothes.
If you’re in the US, Dollar Tree has a bunch of craft supplies for 1.25$ to 5.00$. decent-ish quality.
If you don’t need anything in bulk, I’ve seen acrylic paint, fabric (some cute patterns too) beads, yarns, knitting needles, craft scissors... They didn’t have crochet hooks last time i looked though.
Also if anyone needs help finding those old ladies they are actually often at the libraries and community centers so consider asking your local library if there's times that knitting and craft groups meet
Which in turn will encourage libraries to host these groups if they don't already
Billionaires like to role play as universally beloved rennaissance heroes because they know they’ll be dead before they ever have to deliver anything. Their “solutions” are perpetually 10 or 20 or 30 years away, no matter how much time passes. Mars colonies, fully autonomous vehicles, solar freaking roadways, it’s fun (and easy) to pretend you’ll be the person who brings humanity into the sci-fi future, but actually doing it…
can someone please be proud of me like fuck I’m trying
reblog to let prev know you’re proud of them
hilariousness aside, for those who are unaware cats purr when in distress and in pain - not just when they're happy. Cats purr when giving birth and when dying. It's a noise meant to soothe and heal. purring releases endorphins in both the cat who is purring and in the humans who listen to it.
There is some hypothesis that the vibrations of purrs and the frequency they fall on promote bone growth to help fractures, reduces inflammation, helps regulate breathing, reduces stress, and offers pain relief just to name a few benefits.
And, as someone who has worked with cat rescues for nearly 2 decades now (and I have 5 of my own), it's rare that all cats would even get along and like each other enough to gather together at one time. just like people, they have personality clashes plus in a home most cats will carve out a tiny space for themselves, their own personal territory.
i think it speaks volumes to the kind of person that person is for all of their cats to come together so close for the sole purpose of trying to soothe a member of their family who is direly sick. I think it speaks volumes about cats in general, really. cats can be independent, yes, but they aren't naturally. not domestic cats. they're meant to live in colonies where kittens are raised by every mother and protected by the whole colony, where food and resources are shared, where every cat is an important member of a large family. we can argue until we're blue in the face about the definition of love and whether or not an animal feels it, but what can't be argued is the very strong bond cats form with their family members.
this person's cats knew something was wrong, a member of their colony was in distress, and all came to support and help in the only way they knew how to. with something that offers comfort and relief, with safety and security in numbers.
[ID: a YouTube comment by Cheeri Rinaldo saying,
I use humor when I'm in desperate situations.
I was having a stroke and was curled up in the fetal position in the middle of my living room floor alone with 5 cats. They were all sitting on top of me, purring as loud as they could because they knew something was wrong.
When the paramedic walked in, he stepped back when he saw me covered with cats. I could see the expression on his face, and I muttered "Welcome to Pussy Palace."
/end ID]
